Lest you start thinking of me as a one dimensional character with all the talk of walking, I thought I'd let you into some of my observations about driving.
Not too many months ago, my commute to and from work were the worst two hours of my existence. I was generally irritated if not completely irate that up to 1/12 of my life five days a week was being consumed behind the wheel of a car, surrounded, apparently, by idiots intent on making the time even worse than it already was through their behavior clearly directed at adding as much angst to my life as possible. I sat in my car, in terrible traffic, and stewed in my own sauce while listening to the radio. It was a real pity party, and there was certainly an untamed element of ego that peppered my thinking.
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Sunset in the Rearview Mirror |
Fortunately for my own sanity, much of unproductive and undisciplined emoting is receding in the rearview mirror. By slowing down my pace (literally) in other areas of my life, I was able to begin to develop what I think is a more balanced outlook on that 1/12 of my life five days a week that is still used during my commute.
One of the first things I realized was just how glorious it is to be in a car. Climate controlled and out of the rain, wind, cold, heat, etc. and zipping along at a blistering clip, I really didn't have very much to rue. I also realized that those idiots around my that I egotistically imagined were going out of their way to inconvenience me were actually a bunch of other folks just like me. That had their own worries, their own stresses, their own joys and challenges. They weren't thinking about me at all. I stopped the imaginary competition for the speediest route, the optimal lane placement, and the quickest line and started looking around and just enjoy being in my little steel encased environment.
About this time, I also realized that I had a phone, and I could reach out and interact with the people that I did know. I now routinely spend just a little less than 50 hours a month on the phone with Rory Conlan, the bulk of which is during the commuting time that I used to dread. We talk about whatever happens to strike our fancy. It's not always entertaining, but I do always learn something. I don't know if it's the best way to dual task during the relative downtime during commuting, but I do know it is almost infinitely better than thinking about how I've been wronged by the universe and feeling sorry for myself.
Today on the drive home, I noticed yet another sunset that begged to be captured in pixels. The sun glinted in the rearview mirror, off the glossy white paint of the car, and was double reflected in the mirror and the rear driver side window. The reflections were what really struck me, and I find myself often finding scenes worthy of being called art (rendered by nature) in the myriad of reflective surfaces that surround us all every day. I didn't used to see these subtle, but beautiful splashes of color and drama. I was moving too fast and was far to inwardly focused on my own darkness to appreciate the forces of light that were all around.
Slowing things down a little has given me the freedom to appreciate that the universe isn't out to get me. On the contrary it's conspiring to make me successful every moment that I allow that realization to break through my own hardheadedness. It's a better way of living...hell, even my pictures have gotten more colorful over time. Just hit the label "Commute" and judge for yourself.