
Foggy Sunrise - Yorkville, IL
Sunrise this morning revealed a thick layer of fog that had settled down amongst the fields of soybeans and corn. We packed up the truck and headed west toward the diner that Dad, of course, had identified as our target of opportunity for breakfast.
After we’d ordered our omelets, we sat across from each other and sipped our coffees. We were the only ones in the diner, and the mood was subdued.
“What are you thinking?”
It’s the question I try to ask when I’m sitting across from someone who looks like they might be troubled. In the past I might ask what was wrong, but I’ve learned that the phrasing of that question assumes too much. Better to let folks get around to what might be troubling them in their own time.
After the question, we talked about what we’d learned and experienced over the last five months, how those things had impacted our lives and our thinking, and how we were reacting to this last part of the journey in the context of everything that’s happened so far.
One of the things that I’ve learned along the way is that Dad and I both have different ways of thinking about the various aspects of the walking experience. It seems that the actual physical act of walking is something that brings me a greater sense of fulfillment than it does for my partner. For Dad, it seems as if the walking itself mostly provides the framework for the social interactions that have crossed our path along the way.
Walking by yourself has its own set of challenges, and you no longer have the benefit of someone around you to break into your own thoughts and feelings. You’re stuck with yourself whether you like it or not. You get used to it, but it took me a few days to really get find ease with myself when I was walking alone. It’s during these times that having a friendly stranger to talk to is particularly helpful. For the last couple of days, those interactions have been few and far between.
We finished up breakfast and made our way to Dad’s jumping off point. The fog had taken on what I’ve heard described in the past as the characteristics of pea soup. I dropped Dad off, and as he marched westward. I took the truck and drove along his route to see just how much the visibility had been reduced.
The situation didn’t look promising. As I drove down the highway at ten miles under the posted speed limit, I started counting the seconds it took for me to overtake stationary objects like mailboxes and street signs. One-thousand-one, one-thousand-two, one-thousand-three, one-thousand-four, one-thousand-five, one-thousand-six….
I drove for about a mile. Five to ten seconds from when I spotted the fog shrouded object on the side of the road till the time I passed it as I drove through the fog. The shoulders were narrow, and there was no room for error.
“Too dangerous,” I thought as I made my way back to Dad. He was making his way through Paw Paw, IL on the relative safety of sidewalks.
“What do you think about this fog?”
This time, I didn’t give him a chance to respond.
“I don’t like it. Drivers can’t see you in time to react, and not everyone has their lights on so you can see them. I think we ought to wait for it to lift a little before pressing on.”
Dad agreed and we grabbed a convenience store coffee and sat down near the small granite Veterans’ Memorial at the Lion’s Park in Paw Paw, IL. Just as we settled in, a bright and cheery woman greeted us and asked if we knew any of the names on the Memorial. We admitted our ignorance and owned up to our out of town status.
The conversation evolved, and before we knew what had happened, we’d spent the better part of an hour sharing tall tales of the ups and downs of our adventures and our lives.
After a thoroughly enjoyable conversation, the thick fog remained. It had been joined by thunder and lightning. As we said our goodbyes, the sky opened up and a driving rain crashed down through the fog. We’d managed just over a mile worth of forward progress, but, as we called it a day, I knew for a fact that we’d all gotten just what we needed out of the trail today.