It's been 20 years since I graduated from university. I don't know about other college graduates, but I left school thinking that I'd finally arrived. I knew I was inexperienced, but I also assumed that I had the knowledge and learning required to go forth and make a successful life and career.
It turns out that there remained a whole world worth of learning to accomplish along the winding path that I took over the subsequent two decades. A short an far from comprehensive list of things I've learned since then include:
4. Every moment of your life is change. There is zero value in saying that you don't like change because fundamentally the smallest increment of time is empirically different from every other moment anyone has ever experienced. We're not living life. We're creating it every step of the way. Things rhyme of course, but living in the past is foolish and living in the fantasies of the future is equally ill informed. The only thing that exists is right now, and it lasts like a vapor until you invent the next small increment of the new now. This is important because NOTHING is ever as good or as bad as it seems. There is not permanence to anything, so if you find yourself having a terrible day, take a breath. Focus on the moment. Now...right now is your life really crashing down around your ears. Probably not. No matter what is happening, the air is probably sweet(ish), the ground under your feet is probably solid. Gravity still works, and there's another moment just around a quick corner that is an opportunity to invent a new reality. If you think something is bad, it's likely to be either fear (future looking) or regret (past looking). Since neither of these things actually exist, focusing on the moment will find you in a much better place than you IMAGINED you were experiencing.
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Canoe U. Satellite Antenna |
1. If you find yourself in a situation where you dislike someone because their job seems easier or more fulfilling or less tiresome than yours, maybe you should look into how you can get that job.
2. The value of persistence. I thought I was pretty bright. It turns out that there are quite a few witty, smart, charismatic folks out there in the wide world. What sets folks apart are the ones that make just a little more effort. You don't have to give 110%. That's horseshit, and I don't even really know how that would work. If you would have success, you'll work just a little bit harder than the person next to you. My hypothesis is that it only takes about 2%-4% more effort, but that effort needs to be over the long haul. I didn't really learn this facet of life early enough. If you're young and just getting started, just take my word for it. The value of compounding persistence is similar to the value of compounding interest. It's not really that difficult on any given day, but at the end of a decade you'll find yourself miles ahead.
3. If you find yourself in a situation where you think someone may be crazy, you'd do well to examine whether you might be the one who is crazy. This is especially true if the majority of the folks around you also think the one individual is crazy and the rest of you are sane. The parable of Saddam The Cat (which is a story for a different day) applies here.
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Severn River Bridge - Baltimore Annapolis Boulevard - From Hospital Point - USNA |
5. Patience, forgiveness, and love are NEVER over rated. More on this later, but take my word for it in the interim.
I'm looking forward to tomorrow from a very good place right now.